A shared experience of herpes does not establish trust on its own. Getting to know someone should allow time, clear boundaries and the freedom to stop. You are not to blame for someone else's abuse or deception.
Do not send money or follow an investment pitch from a new romantic contact. Keep bank details, passwords, your tax file number and identity documents private. An Australian phone number or a familiar suburb does not prove identity. Read Scamwatch for scam warnings and reporting information.
Choose a public place, tell someone you trust and arrange your own transport. Check the last train, bus or another way home. For a regional journey, consider the whole return trip; for an outdoor meeting, have a comfortable alternative if heat or weather changes. A long drive or expensive flight does not oblige you to stay or become intimate.
Discuss sexual health and boundaries without forwarding medical records or exposing a former partner's diagnosis. Ask what the other person is comfortable with and respect a pause or refusal. Review profile and device privacy before sharing more.
For immediate danger, call 000. 1800RESPECT provides support for domestic, family and sexual violence. The eSafety online dating guide explains online risks and response options.
Report concerning accounts through official PositiveSingles support and preserve relevant evidence privately where safe. A platform report is not a substitute for emergency help.